Warning – Reading This May Get You More Dates
February 1st, 2008A common error that many women make today is that they believe that if a man is interested in her, he will approach her. If he isn’t, then he won’t. While in theory this sounds like it makes sense, the reality is that this is just an excuse that women make that prevents them from establishing contact with their male counterparts. This affirmation is used by legions of women who find themselves perpetually complaining that “there are no men” wherever they are.
But consider this. There are men who do like you, who are attracted to you, but who are too scared to boldly cold approach you. Every man, no matter who or how great a seducer he is will occasionally experience incidences of cold feet.
Ladies, I’ll tell you straight up, if you want to meet more men and have more dates, then help the poor guy along. Throw him a bone.
Traditionally, it has been the man’s responsibility to approach women. It is his god given task; heaven forbid that women do the approaching, the rejection could put her into a self induced coma for the rest of the week. However, approaching for either sex is an anxious and nerve wracking experience, it is only because men have accepted the fact that if he is to experience sexual encounters he’ll have to make the first move. In fact, after a while, men either get good at approaching women or they become desensitized to the pain of rejection. Perhaps both.
What can you do to get him stammering in front of you? Send him an approach invitation. You can do this by smiling earnestly at him. Make eye contact, hold his gaze, and give him a friendly nod. Perhaps position yourself away from your group of friends (so as to least intimidate him) to give him access to you. Maybe even pose where he can clearly see an opening and brush your hair as you look him up and down. If you are so inclined to take this step a further, then use your incredible vocal talents and say, “hello”.
If he is truly a man, he’ll pick it up from here and BAM, you’ll find yourself in conversation. Now, this could turn into a potential date, or at the very least, provide you with a few minutes of adventure and entertainment. You’ll be proud of yourself for making the first move and allowing him to try to impress you with something you, perhaps, have no interest in at all.
What if he doesn’t respond the way you were hoping or there is no reaction? Then this guy is either too dumb or too wussy for you and really needs a helping hand for his Mars to establish contact with your Venus. That is, if you still want him.
After a few months of inviting men to approach you, you’ll find your dating dance card full and will be the envy of all your equally as desperate friends who will continue to lament their single situation and complain to each other that you are never around anymore.
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